You love each other.
On paper, you should be great for each other. But real life is a different story.
Maybe the fights are more frequent and more intense, but fighting seems to solve less and less. Maybe you feel like roommates. You want connection, and the things you're doing to get it make you someone you can't recognize. You can't remember the last time you felt secure and supported.
You're drained, and your relationship strain is starting to affect other parts of your life; your family, your work, even your sleep.
You don't want to be done, but you don't know what else to do.
All you know is that you can't keep doing what you've been doing for much longer.
You CAN save your relationship.
The right support matters.
Jess supports struggling couples, including those navigating:
Infidelity and Betrayal Trauma
ADHD/ADD, Autism, and other Neuroexpansive experiences
Conflict around sex, mess, money, kids, and/or work
It takes work.
You've BEEN working! But nothing has worked!
Frustrating loops, trying to read each other's minds, feeling so rejected when what we try doesn't change anything; this isn't the kind of work relationships require. Rather, relationships can heal with supported, structured sessions that create a shared framework, collaborative goals, and a deeper understanding of who you are, who your partner is, and what you both need.
You can stop the downward spiral and build something solid - together.
It takes commitment.
You want to be with your partner, you're just not sure it's possible. By exploring the difference between "deal breakers" and solvable relationship problems, you can feel more certain that you're with the 'right' person. When you understand yourself and your partner better, it's more possible to have hope and start to work towards real, lasting solutions. Together.
It takes tools.
Smart, motivated, successful people fail in relationships all of the time. Through no fault of our own, many of the skills that help us to be successful in the rest of our lives don't help us much in our partnerships. We weren't taught the frameworks and skills necessary for a fulfilling relationship. While this is painful and frustrating to admit, it's also good news; even if you didn't have good examples to follow, you can learn new skills to build the relationship you desire.